The 7 Most Appealing Qualities In People

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Pray more, worry less.

Chanced upon an article in Thought Catalog (they always have interesting thought provoking articles I must add) which describes the 7 most appealing qualities in people. Though Im pretty sure there are other qualities which would appeal to people too, but in general sense, these 7 top the list. You can read more about the article HERE.

The 7 most appealing qualities are (not in any order of significance) as follows:

1) A sense of humour

2) A sense of adventure

3) The ability to listen

4) Being Hot

5) Intelligence 

6) Individuality 

7) Honesty

Reading these qualities, makes me realise how much I’ve grown from being that rude, arrogant, fuck-care attitude, chasing after wealth, everything has to go my way, skinny boy, ignorant of people’s feelings and immature in thought. Its not as if I woke up one day and *POOF* I became so much better as a person, as a man, as a human being. Yes, we all make mistakes, it just mean that I am only human and we learn from our experiences. Sometimes, once, sometimes, a couple of times….the hard way. I am turning 25 real soon, in 2 days time, and although I am still far from where I aim to be, but everyday im taking steps to get to my goals. God willing, I will achieve it.

I’ve knocked my head a couple of times, fall down, picked myself up, let my heart go, only for it to be toyed with, get disappointed, failed, was on the brink of failure, got burnt, accidents, shit happens, tired both mentally and physically…truly, it was hard. Of course there were times which was simple, carefree, full of love and happy. But those positive moments, were not the ones which shaped me. Ironically, its the bad ones which do. You know, you can’t shape steel with water… Steel is moulded by heat, by fire, by one which causes the metal elements to break down. But these breaking down of elements allow one to be moulded into perhaps, something better.

I dont know what to feel anymore or how to feel anymore. Reading the 7 most appealing qualities in people, I wonder do I really have them all…or even more? Maybe Im lacking in the “HOT” department. Or perhaps the “LISTENING” part. I must admit, Im not an excellent listener, but I do listen to people’s needs and wants… and sometimes assess the situation if it is justifiable to act the way others want us to act. Listening does not mean being pussy-whipped. A good listener is practically using up whatever’s left of his time to spend time listening to you, your problems, your happy moments, about your day, your work, your exam, your life. They may not give the best advices or solutions, but they were there, for you and for me.

Turning 25, i’ve met so many people who taught me how to live life, love life and love. I dare say Im working towards having these 7 most appealing qualities in a person in me. Working my way up to be a better man. Afterall, time is not money. Time is value. And how you use your time demonstrates what you value. And at this moment, I value myself because only when we learn how to value and love ourselves, will we be ready to appreciate and love others wholeheartedly.

That being said, I cant wait for 31st March. Good tidings and love beckons. xoxo

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The Kinds Of People You Really Need To Stop Dating

Pay attention. Pay attention to the ones who love you and also the ones who never could.

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Let’s start with the obvious, shall we? You need to stop dating people who hate themselves. If someone doesn’t practice self-love, you can pretty much guarantee that they won’t know how to love you.

You need to stop dating people as an experiment. “I wonder what it’s like to date someone short or depressed or Republican or Christian or vegan.” Stop. Stop. Stop. You know what it’ll be like. You’re no longer the person swimming in naïveté. You understand things now. You understand people, relationships and dynamics. Most importantly, you understand yourself. You no longer have the luxury of pretending that you don’t know any better. (And that sucks because the second you figure things out, life becomes less fun, doesn’t it?)

You need to stop dating people who make you feel any different than who you really are. Or ashamed. Or hesitant. No. You…

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How We Let People Go

“There will come a day when you don’t care, but you won’t notice it, because you will have other things to think about.”

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There is a specific feeling which exists only when you run into someone you had long forgotten about. It’s probably most palpable when it’s an ex, but it can happen with friends who were once particularly close. It is comparable to a scab that seems to have been on your skin forever — a scrape which was once quite painful but has been so long in the healing process that you no longer notice its presence when you wash over it in the shower. You peel it off almost out of boredom and suddenly there is a drop or two of blood, something that vaguely resembles the wound it once was, now too distant to really cause any discomfort. These people are wounds which have healed over, which have never quite turned into scars but which have become just another part of your lived-in body.

Letting someone go — when…

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The Rules To Live By

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“I think a gentleman is someone who holds the comfort of other people above their own. The instinct to do that is inside every good man, I believe. The rules about opening doors and buying dinner and all of that other ‘gentleman’ stuff is a chess game, especially these days.” – Anna Kendrick

Honestly, I’m trying to be more of a gentleman these days. Yes, perhaps not material wise but just you know, character and behaviour and attitude perhaps. To be the best for whoever God has planned for me to be with.

For if God wants me to land next to her every morning and night, I’ll make sure she won’t need anyone but me.

Laters, Baby.

When You Loved Me Best

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“I wanted so badly to lie down next to her on the couch, to wrap my arms around her and sleep. Not fuck, like in those movies. Not even have sex. Just sleep together, in the most innocent sense of the phrase…So I walked back to my room and collapsed on the bottom bunk. Thinking about if people were rain. I was drizzle and she was hurricane.”- Looking for Alaska by John Greene

Yeah, I guess we both rushed into things we both weren’t really ready for. Perhaps, I should have seen it coming. But I was blinded, eyes covered by your cold, soft hands, with the smell of you ever lingering in my mind. Your scent, that distinct scent from you when you put your face close to mine. When our lips came in contact with mine, those kisses always feel like our first kiss back in Dempsey Hill’s Ben & Jerry’s. Nervous and rather sensual. Honestly, I miss those supple lips of yours and that particular scent from you, certainly perks my senses up. Those were the times we were more than just best friends yet with no strings attached, everything was all so very…lovely.

I will still be around you know, somewhere. We could still be best friends and share happy moments together. Even if in bad times, you need a shoulder or chest to lie on, I’ll be here, God willing. Someday I hope, we both would be strong enough to love our best friend and I quote – get an “upgrade” so that your marginal profit is a little bit higher. 🙂

And just like the quote above, if people were rain, I was merely a drizzle and you, were my hurricane. I am death and you cannot kiss death without me kissing you back. For I am a passionate kisser. If only you knew how much I loved you. But I know you are not ready.

 

 

Dream of me, H. Dream of me.

XOXO

Only Time

Player much.

“I want you sore, baby. Every time you move tomorrow, I want you to be reminded that I’ve been here. Only me. You are mine.”

Sometimes, its amazing how others can help you find the words which you really mean to express deep inside.